Post by RowanMoonWynd on Aug 1, 2004 19:52:48 GMT -5
Okay here goes...................
My ex husband and I are divorced, and we have two boys, one who lives with me (the youngest one), and one who lives with him in Wa. State (the oldest one).
I have my oldest son with me, he came to spend the last half of the summer with me. I had EVERY intention of sending my son back to his father, and NEVER said ANYTHING about keeping him here with me. I have been in contact with my ex AND his wife, we have had several conversations, and I thought everything was amicable between us.
Monday afternoon, when I came home for lunch from work, there was a constable standing on my front porch to serve me with court papers. Turns out, my ex filed papers on me. He put a restraining order on me that I cannot keep my son after Aug. 28, and my first court hearing is this Tuesday by phone. Now, I am in Pa. and he is in Wa. state. I went to see a lawyer here in Pa., and he told me there is nothing he can do because Wa., has jurisidiction, and that I needed to get a lawyer in Wa. to represent me. Friday, I spent all day on the phone trying to find a lawyer in Wa. state and no one will help me because the hearing is this Tuesday (they only gave me five days to get legal representation and to find out what my rights are). I called TWELVE lawyers, the Wa. state bar association, and the statewide lawyer referral service, and could not find one friggin lawyer to help me.
Now I have this hearing on Tuesday, and from what I gather the hearing is about the restraining order and if there is just cause for it. In the papers his dad put that I have moved from state to state in the past, and that he was afraid when I got served the papers that I would move again, or "hide" my son. Now, I have been in Lancaster, Pa., for FIVE YEARS, and for four of those years I had lived at the same address. We moved last year and the only reason why we moved was because we bought a house. Now, does that sound like someone who is going to move? As far as hiding my son, where the hell am I suppose to do that? He has my mothers addy and phone number, and the same with my father.
He also put in those papers that I was going to have my son institutionalized if his dad did not take him. Lie. He put in there that I could not control my son, that I had him hospitalized several times, he was strung out on many different meds, I was afraid of my son, etc., etc., etc. All lies. Trying to prove me unfit.
I am afraid to agree to anything on Tues. in the court hearing, because I don't know exactly what I am going to be agreeing to. If I agree to send him back to his dad, I feel like I will be agreeing to everything he and those other peeps he got to write letters against me said, and that I cannot do, but I also don't want to go to jail for not agreeing. I feel like I'm screwed and I'm running out of time. Does anyone know anything about the law, and if so, could you please, PLEASE, give me some advice?
My ex husband and I are divorced, and we have two boys, one who lives with me (the youngest one), and one who lives with him in Wa. State (the oldest one).
I have my oldest son with me, he came to spend the last half of the summer with me. I had EVERY intention of sending my son back to his father, and NEVER said ANYTHING about keeping him here with me. I have been in contact with my ex AND his wife, we have had several conversations, and I thought everything was amicable between us.
Monday afternoon, when I came home for lunch from work, there was a constable standing on my front porch to serve me with court papers. Turns out, my ex filed papers on me. He put a restraining order on me that I cannot keep my son after Aug. 28, and my first court hearing is this Tuesday by phone. Now, I am in Pa. and he is in Wa. state. I went to see a lawyer here in Pa., and he told me there is nothing he can do because Wa., has jurisidiction, and that I needed to get a lawyer in Wa. to represent me. Friday, I spent all day on the phone trying to find a lawyer in Wa. state and no one will help me because the hearing is this Tuesday (they only gave me five days to get legal representation and to find out what my rights are). I called TWELVE lawyers, the Wa. state bar association, and the statewide lawyer referral service, and could not find one friggin lawyer to help me.
Now I have this hearing on Tuesday, and from what I gather the hearing is about the restraining order and if there is just cause for it. In the papers his dad put that I have moved from state to state in the past, and that he was afraid when I got served the papers that I would move again, or "hide" my son. Now, I have been in Lancaster, Pa., for FIVE YEARS, and for four of those years I had lived at the same address. We moved last year and the only reason why we moved was because we bought a house. Now, does that sound like someone who is going to move? As far as hiding my son, where the hell am I suppose to do that? He has my mothers addy and phone number, and the same with my father.
He also put in those papers that I was going to have my son institutionalized if his dad did not take him. Lie. He put in there that I could not control my son, that I had him hospitalized several times, he was strung out on many different meds, I was afraid of my son, etc., etc., etc. All lies. Trying to prove me unfit.
I am afraid to agree to anything on Tues. in the court hearing, because I don't know exactly what I am going to be agreeing to. If I agree to send him back to his dad, I feel like I will be agreeing to everything he and those other peeps he got to write letters against me said, and that I cannot do, but I also don't want to go to jail for not agreeing. I feel like I'm screwed and I'm running out of time. Does anyone know anything about the law, and if so, could you please, PLEASE, give me some advice?
